Adding a disclaimer...
Last week I was on the phone with a dear friend who's traveled a grief journey much like myself. I don't want to put words or thoughts in his mouth, but I know him well enough that we can talk about anything. We've walked in similar shoes and without a doubt we became friends in a short amount of time.
Over the past couple years, we've discussed anything and everything. Death, life, struggles, depression, business, yikes, you name it and I think we've gone there. This past Friday we talked on the phone, our conversation took us down a path we often follow.
Finding peace in our own lives and how can we continue to openly share that message. It's not easy work, yet we encourage each other to continue. I'm pounding this friendship into your minds because I want you to understand as a reader that he and I walk on a similar wavelength.
I told him that "I wouldn't change a single thing about my life". I was grateful for the moment, the ability to reflect on my life and see inspiration in my own journey. Having the heart and soul to believe in my walk and to find peace in my life. Even though I struggle daily to understand, I believe in the lesson ahead.
After saying all of this from the heart to someone that understands my walk, the disclaimer. "Don't get me wrong, I would take my son back in a heartbeat". Why the disclaimer? Guilt? Regret? Fear? The need to be politically correct? This time, he called me on it.
Why do I find peace and strength in my journey and instantly take it all back with the disclaimer? I remember teaching the project a couple years back and afterward a woman coming up to me thanking me for everything. Instantly I told her that I didn't feel that I should be thanked, my lessons came at a cost and my heart was filled with regret.
She told me something that changed my life, "I find strength, hope and life in your work. When you disclaim your work, you've taken everything back away from me that you've just given me. In my daughters name, just say thank you".
She opened my eyes and in her daughters name, each and every presentation forward I've said thank you. I'm a product of my experiences, each stacked neatly upon the next making me who I am today. I learn daily, hundreds if not thousands of moments bring to this moment in time.
From this moment forward, there will be no disclaimer. I wouldn't change a single thing in my life. Thank you for believing in me, for taking the time to listen, learn and share. We all walk in different shoes, I'm grateful for mine.
Be safe and well.